Saturday, November 9, 2013

Devastating news

Hi everyone,

This is Erika's friend Mollyanne.  She asked me to post to share the devastating news with you that the birth mom changed her mind and decided to take the baby back.  Please join me in praying for Erika and Matt.  They are on their way home now.
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  1. NatashaNovember 9, 2013 at 1:23 PM

    I am so sorry this is happening to you :( I'm so sad with you right now.

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    1. SherryNovember 12, 2013 at 4:34 AM

      Hi, Erika! I am Natasha's blog friend, Sherry, and I know a little about this kind of loss after losing our full term (past due actually) baby girl this past June. Yes, you were definitely a mother for the time you were given with your little one. I know you have so many questions and anger over why this happened, and I don't have the answers. I do know that it is okay to be angry and it is okay to direct that anger and those questions to God...He can take it! Anger is part of the grieving process, and in the communication of it to God, you may just feel his love and comfort more than you've ever felt before. He's pretty awesome like that! No, it may not make the pain go away, but I guess it just helps you live through it. God doesn't promise that in this world we will not experience suffering, but He does promise to be with us in our suffering and to continue to bless us after the storms. And He doesn't "cause" the suffering despite what the world may try to make us believe. I cling to those promises. There was a good reason you were blessed with this little one even for a short time. Maybe it was to prepare your heart for the joys and sometimes the pain of motherhood. You and your husband gave your little girl the best gift you could, your love. I know it is difficult to look at the pictures of her right now and to see her nursery, but do not delete the pictures and give yourself time to look at the nursery. There may come a day when those very things do bring you some comfort at least in being able to remember your baby. If you want to "talk," I am just an e-mail away. Hugs, Mommy!

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  2. the blogiversNovember 9, 2013 at 1:53 PM

    Hate hearing this news so very much :(

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  3. CaitlinNovember 9, 2013 at 2:07 PM

    My thoughts, tears, and prayers are with you and for you. I'm so sorry.

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  4. TammiNovember 9, 2013 at 2:10 PM

    I am praying so very hard for you and your family right now.

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  5. MeghanNovember 9, 2013 at 3:07 PM

    My thoughts, prayers, and heartbreak are with you guys. I, am at a loss to what to say, but am thinking constantly of you.

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  6. GillianNovember 9, 2013 at 3:29 PM

    Oh, Erika. My heart is in pieces for you. So very very sorry for this awful news.

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  7. SusanNovember 9, 2013 at 3:56 PM

    My heart is breaking for you, Erika and Matt. Surrounding you in love, hope and prayer! xoxo

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  8. HeidiNovember 9, 2013 at 4:05 PM

    Hate this. Hate hate hate this. I am so sad and so sorry.

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  9. AmandaNovember 9, 2013 at 5:12 PM

    Thank you for posting this Mollyanne. I know so many people will want to know the news and join in praying for Matt and Erika.

    Erika- my heart is broken for you, my friend. There are no words to say other than I'm sorry, I love you, and I'm here for you. Praying that the Lord will comfort you and Matt in the coming days. Love you, friend!

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  10. LondonHeatherNovember 9, 2013 at 5:18 PM

    Oh, I'm so sorry. Praying hard for you.

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  11. AnonymousNovember 9, 2013 at 7:03 PM

    I can't imagine the heartbreak you and your husband are feeling. Prayers going out to you and Matt.

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  12. AmandaNovember 9, 2013 at 7:25 PM

    I am so, so sorry. There are no words. Holding you both close in my prayers.

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  13. AnonymousNovember 9, 2013 at 7:50 PM

    "Sorry" cannot convey how I feel reading this. Please know that there is a community of people, many of whom you have never met, who are praying for you and Matt tonight and every night going forward as you grieve and, eventually, move towards healing.

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  14. UnknownNovember 9, 2013 at 7:55 PM

    Praying for you both.. as well the birth mom and baby girl <3 tough tough moments were had.. and will be to come.. so sorry to hear

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  15. UnknownNovember 9, 2013 at 8:34 PM

    I am praying for both of you.

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  16. lo @ crazy ever afterNovember 9, 2013 at 8:35 PM

    I am sick over this. Praying so hard for all of those close to Matt and Erika. My heart aches.

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  17. UnknownNovember 9, 2013 at 8:38 PM

    My prayers are with you...

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  18. BrittneyNovember 9, 2013 at 8:49 PM

    Praying for you guys. God is near to the broken hearted.

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  19. Melody MartinNovember 9, 2013 at 9:11 PM

    Crying with you...I'm so sorry.

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  20. UnknownNovember 9, 2013 at 9:33 PM

    This is so sad. There are no words. Sending you guys prayers and hugs.

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  21. smorrowNovember 9, 2013 at 9:33 PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. This journey of adoption is not an easy road,however, well worth it when your baby finds you. It will make you stronger, and braver, and in the end, it will make you amazing parents because of the struggles you have faced. I am hoping that you will eventually find peace with this situation, and that your baby will come to you soon. My thoughts are with you.

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  22. UnknownNovember 9, 2013 at 9:51 PM

    Erika and Matt, my heart aches for you! I am praying for you both.

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  23. Caroline @ In Due TimeNovember 9, 2013 at 10:30 PM

    Hate reading/hearing this news. Hugging you from TX and praying that you feel the Lord's peace all throughout your house. Hurting with you friend.

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  24. StaceyNovember 9, 2013 at 11:18 PM

    Ugh. My heart breaks for you. I hope God provides some peace in this chaos.

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  25. MelissaNovember 10, 2013 at 12:02 AM

    Erika, I am so sorry. My heart dropped when i read this & i am just sick. I can only imagine the pain and my heart is broken for you & Matt. Praying that God holds you both close, that you feel his peace & presence like never before. Love, Melissa

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  26. AnonymousNovember 10, 2013 at 12:17 AM

    My prayers are with you!

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  27. Jenny FlemingNovember 10, 2013 at 12:46 AM

    Hugs from Bama. I don't know God's plan during this tragedy but I know that it is ultimately to help shape you and Matt to look more like Christ. He is our only hope in a storm like this.

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  28. BrittnieNovember 10, 2013 at 6:42 AM

    Praying that your hearts can somehow find peace in the midst of this loss and sadness. So sorry, friend. Prayers are being lifted.

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  29. Aubrey November 10, 2013 at 6:58 AM

    Oh Erika- I don't even know what to say. I am so, SO sorry to hear this very sad news :(. I wish I could reach my arms out to your from up here and give you the biggest hug. Know that your are on my mind and in my heart.

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  30. CourtneyNovember 10, 2013 at 7:06 AM

    The Lord is close to the broken hearted and saves those who have been crushed in spirit.


    Praying for ya friend. I'm so sorry.

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  31. MarthaNovember 10, 2013 at 8:46 AM

    I'm so, so sorry. I have no words, but I thought I would let you know that you and Matt are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  32. AllisonNovember 10, 2013 at 9:05 AM

    So sorry/sad to read this news. I know there are no words to give y'all the comfort you deserve, but do know we are all thinking and praying for you.

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  33. Tracy November 10, 2013 at 9:29 AM

    I'm so sorry!

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  34. LauraNovember 10, 2013 at 9:50 AM

    Praying SO hard for you, Erika and Matt!!

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  35. The BirdNovember 10, 2013 at 10:08 AM

    I am so, so sorry that you are going through this. Sending thoughts and prayers your way as I am sure you sift through too many emotions/thoughts.

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  36. Gypsy MamaNovember 10, 2013 at 10:15 AM

    Erika, I am so so so sorry for your loss. We will be here for you to support you and pray for you all. xo

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  37. melissaNovember 10, 2013 at 10:29 AM

    No way. I can't even believe it. Losing a baby is one of the worst experiences to go through...I'm so sorry this has to be part of your journey. I'm actually kind of mad right now because this is really NOT fair.

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  38. SarahNovember 10, 2013 at 10:34 AM

    there just aren't words, Erika and Matt…. praying for peace for you both during this difficult time.

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  39. NikkiNovember 10, 2013 at 10:48 AM

    I'm so so sorry, praying for you Matt and Erika.

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  40. JillNovember 10, 2013 at 11:07 AM

    I am so sorry to hear this news . . . there are no words. We are praying for you here.

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  41. ElizabethNovember 10, 2013 at 11:50 AM

    Oh my gosh. My heart is breaking for them. Praying for God's peace for sure.

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  42. cdketchieNovember 10, 2013 at 11:51 AM

    I am so sorry to read this news. My heart breaks for you. We went through this same situation three years ago. If you ever want to talk, please feel free to email me. (cdketchie@gmail.com)

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  43. AnonymousNovember 10, 2013 at 1:44 PM

    I am so sorry to read this. I am incredibly sad for you both. Though I am new to your blog (I'm the expectant grandma that found you by googling nursery ideas), I know how much that tiny baby meant to you and how much you loved it. I am praying for you all.

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  44. dspenceNovember 10, 2013 at 1:57 PM

    Praying. I'm just so sorry...

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  45. JessicaNovember 10, 2013 at 2:26 PM

    my heart is breaking for you. praying so hard for you and matt.

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  46. KarenNovember 10, 2013 at 2:26 PM

    Erika, I just started reading your blog a few months ago. I'm so sorry to read this news. Praying that the God of all comfort will give you His comfort in this very difficult time.

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  47. AnonymousNovember 10, 2013 at 2:36 PM

    Oh my gosh. :( This is not okay .... My heart aches for Erika.

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  48. JoJoNovember 10, 2013 at 2:51 PM

    *hugs* I'm truly sorry to hear/read this news. I know there isn't words that can explain how you feel right now but just know you both are in my prayers.

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  49. SarahNovember 10, 2013 at 3:31 PM

    Oh friend. I can't even tell you how sorry I am. I know no words can help in your loss at all, but just know I'm thinking and praying for you hard. Hugs!

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  50. SamanthaNovember 10, 2013 at 3:33 PM

    My heart hurts for you both. Sending prayers of healing your way. ((Hugs))

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  51. BeckyNovember 10, 2013 at 3:45 PM

    I wish I could say or do something to make you feel better! Just know you and Matt are in my thoughts and prayers!!!

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  52. AshleyNovember 10, 2013 at 4:25 PM

    I know there are no words to comfort you right now. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. May God fill you with peace and joy in the midst of sadness. Praying for you.

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  53. staceyNovember 10, 2013 at 4:37 PM

    Oh no. I've followed your blog and I'm so sad to hear this! I've been there - last February. It is devastating. All I can say is I'm so so sorry!

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  54. CamilleNovember 10, 2013 at 4:47 PM

    I have read your blog but never commented. I am heart broken for y'all. I am praying.

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  55. DeedaNovember 10, 2013 at 4:57 PM

    Erika, I am so sorry, There are no words. You are in my prayers, today and every day. I wish I could think of something better to say, but there's just not. I wish I could come cry with you right now.

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  56. MeredithNovember 10, 2013 at 5:11 PM

    Absolutely heartbreaking. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

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  57. RisaNovember 10, 2013 at 5:18 PM

    This isn't fair. I was just sick when I read this. Matt and Erika, my heart hurts for you. I'm so sorry. This just is not fair.

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  58. AnonymousNovember 10, 2013 at 5:26 PM

    I really don't have the right words. (Although I've continued to try to express them with fb and a txt) Fail. I know it doesn't make it any easier, but we all are thinking of you and your family and praying for you to somehow find peace. You've said it youself: God works in mysterious ways. And I can only pray that His great plan is shown for you sooner than later. Sending my love.
    Helina

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  59. wherethebleepisourstorkNovember 10, 2013 at 5:56 PM

    I am so so so sorry! This makes me sick. It just is not fair. Praying so hard for you!!

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  60. AnonymousNovember 10, 2013 at 6:20 PM

    Oh no. I'm so very, very sorry.

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  61. EmilyNovember 10, 2013 at 6:22 PM

    Reading those few sentences literally knocked the wind right out of me ... So I can't even imagine how you must be feeling. I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. :(

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  62. Sarah MarrhNovember 10, 2013 at 6:24 PM

    Breaks my heart to hear this, friend. I know the Lord has reasons, but that doesn't make the heartache easier. Praying you find peace.

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  63. EmNovember 10, 2013 at 8:24 PM

    Oh Erika...what can I possibly, possibly say? I am just devastated by this news. You have been on my mind all day and I have been praying for you constantly - while doing laundry, getting ready for church, during the music at church, etc. What an excruciating loss. I have always thought that this sort of loss would be far more difficult emotionally than a miscarriage because that child is still out there somewhere. I can see how one would wonder about her often and how your heart would just yearn for her. I tried to tell my mom about what's happening with you guys today, and I couldn't even get through it. I just kept crying. I am feeling just a tiny portion of your sorrow today. Wish I could hug you and cry with you.

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  64. StroNovember 10, 2013 at 8:50 PM

    I am so so sad and sorry to hear this. There are no words that I can say except I will be praying for you.

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  65. UnknownNovember 10, 2013 at 9:04 PM

    My heart breaks for you. We will continue to pray for you guys.

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  66. jAllenNovember 10, 2013 at 9:22 PM

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I'm not a regular follower, but I loved reading how you turned 30 on 12/12/12, I also love number patterns. I am wishing you and Matt strength during this difficult time. My heart is breaking for you.

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  67. AnonymousNovember 10, 2013 at 9:36 PM

    Tears for you tonight. I'm so sad!

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  68. HeatherNovember 10, 2013 at 9:43 PM

    Praying for you all.

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  69. Katie @ Loves of LifeNovember 10, 2013 at 9:50 PM

    oh my heart hurts with you. many prayers...

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  70. KristenNovember 10, 2013 at 11:17 PM

    My heart just sunk for you. Praying.

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  71. UnknownNovember 11, 2013 at 6:34 AM

    Erika, all my heart and prayers are with you. Nothing can fix this, but please know that all these people are lifting you up.

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  72. MyndieNovember 11, 2013 at 7:54 AM

    Life sucks sometimes! I'm so so sorry you have to deal with this pain and sorrow. I want to hug you so bad right now.

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  73. EmilyNovember 11, 2013 at 8:29 AM

    Oh no! I am so so so so sorry and will be praying for you and Matt. This just isn't fair! Sending lots or prayers up for you and many virtual hugs too!

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  74. CariNovember 11, 2013 at 8:31 AM

    There is absolutely nothing we can say to help but know how many people are praying for you! God is in control! Hugs to you both and your families.

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  75. LindseyNovember 11, 2013 at 9:04 AM

    Praying for you Erika. Wow, can't even imagine the pain. praying, there is nothing else at a time like this.

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  76. Janet Off KilterNovember 11, 2013 at 9:35 AM

    I'm speechless and heartbroken for Erika & Matt. Sending nothing but love their way! xoxoxo

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  77. AmieNovember 11, 2013 at 9:53 AM

    Wow I am speechless here because I can't even imagine how heartbroken you are right now. The hurt I feel knowing your story cant even touch what you and Matt must be going through. Just know that all of us are here for you and to support you. We are all praying for you!!

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  78. AnonymousNovember 11, 2013 at 9:56 AM

    I'm so sorry. :( Praying for you.

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  79. AnonymousNovember 11, 2013 at 10:45 AM

    So sad to hear this news. Have been rooting for y'all from afar for quite some time.

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  80. Val @ It's Always Sunny in SomervilleNovember 11, 2013 at 10:56 AM

    I am praying for you guys. I am so, so sorry.

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  81. Mariah ENovember 11, 2013 at 11:26 AM

    Praying for you, Matt and your families during this horrible time.

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  82. 2dogniteNovember 11, 2013 at 11:41 AM

    Matt and Erika, I am so incredibly saddened by this news. My heart breaks for you. I hope you have all the love and support you could possibly need around you and know that your friends in the blogosphere are praying for you.

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  83. StephanieNovember 11, 2013 at 12:58 PM

    I am a new follower. I saw many posts from other bloggers who are praying for you guys. I am so sorry to hear this news, Erika and Matt. It is just not fair. I will be praying for you guys too. :(

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  84. JenNovember 11, 2013 at 2:03 PM

    Just heart breaking. I can not even imagine. Prayers with you all during this time. I am just completely devastated for you all.

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  85. AnonymousNovember 11, 2013 at 2:28 PM

    My heart goes out to you.... Always in my thoughts and prayers. Candy xo

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  86. KristyLouNovember 11, 2013 at 2:50 PM

    Parying for you, and your family!

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  87. BamawhitneyNovember 11, 2013 at 3:36 PM

    So sad for you both. A new reader but I feel so badly for you.

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  88. AnonymousNovember 11, 2013 at 4:06 PM

    Oh Erika. I can't imagine how you must feel, I won't even attempt to say words to console you. Just know you are prayed for, that my heart breaks for your loss. So terrible, I am just dying to hug you and cry with you. You will make it through this sweet girl, take all the time and rest you need.

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  89. NessaNovember 11, 2013 at 5:41 PM

    Erika, Matt . . . .you are in my prayers . . . . .I am praying you can feel the comfort and healing only God can provide.
    In Jesus's name.

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  90. AnonymousNovember 11, 2013 at 7:19 PM

    I am so sorry.

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  91. AnonymousNovember 11, 2013 at 9:28 PM

    More prayers are being sent up for you and Matt from a long time blog follower. May you somehow find peace and feel the many people praying for you. My heart is broken for you both, but I believe in happy endings and I know you do too. God WILL bless you. Stay strong.

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  92. UnknownNovember 11, 2013 at 9:52 PM

    I am so sorry that you are going through this. Hugs! We will all be here to listen and support you when you are ready

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  93. MeganNovember 11, 2013 at 11:54 PM

    Praying for you guys. So sorry to hear this.

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  94. ChristenNovember 12, 2013 at 9:11 PM

    There are no words... my heart is breaking for you both. We are all here when you are ready to talk. I am so, so sorry...

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  95. KaraNovember 18, 2013 at 9:08 PM

    I am so heartbroken with you. I am so sorry and if you want to talk please email me!!! Praying for you and your husband.

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